Oleh Ustadzah Nur Hamidah, Lc., M.Ag.
Delivered at the Halaqoh Online Study on Tuesday for Female Expatriates, March 2, 2021
Father and mother services
Both parents are the most meritorious humans. Without them we would not have been born. Without their sacrifice we cannot exist and grow naturally and well.
The attention and funds they give and sacrifice without limits. "Parental love all the way", so the saying goes. In fact, they are often ready to suffer and strive for a long time for the health, happiness, and safety of their children.
Father is such a great service. He is willing to work hard and sweat to make a living that is lawful and sufficient to meet the needs of his children and family. Sometimes he has to reduce sleep and rest for the sake of the child and family. He is willing to go to great lengths to work for the sake of the child. He is willing to give up his enjoyment for the sake of his children, the next generation of his life.
The sacrifice of the mother is much greater than that of the father. For nine months we are in her womb. The more days the womb it carries, the heavier it gets. Face down can not, lie down wrong, supine pain and tightness.
The day the load in the womb gets heavier. When a child is born, the mother risks her life. After that we are always in the mother's total attention. Warm hugs, endless flowing milk, and so much attention is always paid to us.
He takes care of us and cares for us with great patience and warmth. In fact, he was ready to wake up at night, enduring the sleepiness that was so heavy for the sake of the child. He sacrifices time, attention, thoughts, funds, etc. for the welfare of the child.
The care and sacrifice of parents who are so great for their children lasts a very long period of time. Not a number of days, weeks or months. It even lasts for years.
God's commandment to be filial to parents
Therefore it is only natural that Allah obliges us to serve and do good to our parents, as in His words in Surah Al-Isra (17) verses 23-24, which means: “And your Lord has commanded that you should not worship other than him and let you be. do good to your father's mother as well as possible. If one of the two or both of them is old in your care, then you may not say to both of them the word 'ah' and do not yell at them and say to them a noble word (23). And humble yourself towards them both with great love and say: 'O my Lord, love them both, as they both have educated me as a child'. " (24)
Just saying the word "ah" to parents is not permitted by religion. Especially saying words or treating them more harshly than that.
Such is the urgency of being devoted to parents, so that in this verse Allah mentions that the obligation to do good to them is coupled with the obligation to worship Him. Their good services are so great that they must be thanked by being devoted to both parents.
Then, how do we honor our parents?
How to honor parents
There are several ways to honor parents, namely:
- Talk to your parents politely.
- Obey and obey all the commandments of both, except if it is in the context of sin and immorality.
- Be gentle with them. Don't frown in front of them, and don't look at them with cynical eyes.
- Always maintain their dignity (good name and prestige), and don't take what is yours without their permission.
- Do what makes them happy, even if it is not their direct command, such as helping, buying household needs (family) and being sincere.
- Consult with them in all your affairs and apologize to them if you have to violate their opinion (because of an emergency).
- Answer their call immediately and with a face that is radiant and smiling, and say “OK, ma'am! Good, Sir..!"
- Respect and honor their family and friends, and do not befriend their enemies (if they have enemies) either while alive or when they have died.
- Don't go far without their permission, even on very important matters. But in an emergency situation, apologize from both of them and remember not to forget to send them news (letters, calls, SMS, etc.) always.
- Don't go into their room without their knowledge and permission, especially during breaks and sleep.
- When they have guests, then be active in helping serve their guests. And pay attention to their stares and cues, maybe they both need something.
- Don't eat before they eat.
- Don't lie and don't criticize them when they do something that might make you uncomfortable.
- Don't sit on a higher place than their seat, and don't walk in front of them.
- Do not be arrogant for not having a passion for your father (mentioning the father's name after the child's name), even though you are a high ranking person.
- Be careful not to deny their kindness or hurt them even with one word.
- Make pilgrimages to them, give them gifts and thank them for the education and sacrifices that have been poured out on you.
- The prayer of the father and mother was granted by Allah SWT. Therefore, try to keep both of them praying for you in kindness, and be careful not to let both of them pray for you in neglect.
- Be polite to other people's mothers and fathers. Because, whoever makes fun of someone else's mother-father, then other people will make fun of that person's mother-father.
- Be devoted to your parents both while they are alive and after they have died. Multiply alms for them. And always pray for them with a prayer that says: "O Allah, forgive me and my parents and have mercy on both of them as they educated me as a child."
May Allah SWT always give His taufiq and guidance to us to always be devoted to our parents and always pray for them both while they are still alive and after they face Allah SWT. Aamiin.
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