DDHK.ORG - Mother Instigated Slander Brother, is it a sin if we stop providing for her?
Peace, mercy and blessings of God
Ustadz, I want to ask a question.
I used to work in Hong Kong with the intention of making a living and building a house with my parents. Then, I left my child to be cared for by my parents and siblings. So long has passed, thank God I already have my own house.
Then my brother slandered me: I kicked my parents out of my house.” And, my mother believed in the instigation of my brothers. In the end, I was very disappointed. I also rarely provide for my parents.
The question is, is it a sin for me to do something like that to my mother?
Thank you, Ustadz.
Greetings, Fulanah
ANSWER:
ليكم السلام الله ات
Bismillah... My sister who is blessed by Allah. Maintaining good relations with parents, siblings and relatives is our obligation as Muslims. Do not let a misunderstanding cause someone to fight and be hostile to his brothers and sisters.
This life certainly has risks and tests that we must face. Including, the decision to work abroad by leaving the family, especially children. One has to leave child care to someone else even to one's grandparents or uncles.
If in the end there is unfounded slander, then try to meet and have a good discussion so that you can tabayyun (clarification) properly.
Allah Subhanahu wata'ala says:
ا لَّذِینَ امَنُوۤا۟ اۤءَكُمۡ اسِقُۢ ا۟ ا۟ ا لَةࣲ ا۟ لَىٰ ا لۡتُمۡ {سورة الحجرات:٦}
"O you who believe, if someone who is wicked comes with news to you, then examine the truth, so that you do not harm a people because of ignorance (recklessness), which in the end you will regret your actions." {Surat al-Hujurat: 6}
Even though we are victims, if the slander is still from our brother's side, then it wouldn't be wrong if we tried to clarify this in front of them.
Don't forget to always pray to Allah for the best way out.
As for living for parents, actually girls are not obliged to provide maintenance for parents if they are married. However, it is not wrong for girls to provide for their parents if they are in need, even that is very good and includes filial piety to both of them.
Disappointed is normal, but after all parents are still parents where we are obliged to do good to them. Pray for them, leave all matters to Allah so that we are calmer, and don't forget to keep trying for the sake of maintaining a good relationship with our parents and brothers. Allah must be testing us and promising us great wisdom.
Wallâhu a'lam bish-showâb.
Hope it works!
Peace, mercy and blessings of God
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(Answered by: Ustadz Very Setiyawan, Lc., S.Pd.I., MH)
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